Monday, April 8, 2013


Something I watched yesterday got me thinking. It was a Sunday, so nothing was on, so we were watching a Kourtney & Kim Take Miami marathon. On part 1 of the finale Kim is talking to Scott about babies, and what she'd do if she became pregnant. Clearly she either didn't know she was pregnant, or wasn't telling anyone. Because when asked what she'd do, she said she wouldn't "get rid of it" because that would be "selfish." It's unclear what she meant by "get rid of it" but either way, it kind of pissed me off.

Whether she was speaking of adoption or abortion, there are many different reasons for choosing one or the other. And not all of them are selfish. Of course, there are those women with less than honorable reasons, I'm not arguing that. I just can't help but defend the ones who weren't selfish in their decision to place their children. Because, when I made my adoption plan, the only person I thought of was my son. And what was best for him. I wasn't with his birth father, we weren't even speaking, and he had made it perfectly clear that a) he wasn't the dad, and b) he wouldn't help at all. And I knew that raising a child without a father was not going to be something I wanted to put my child through. A boy needs his father, just as much as he needs his mother. And I did not want to put my son through child support fights and have him questioning and wondering why his father didn't love him. So I gave him a great family, a mother and father and a big brother. I'm not saying I couldn't have done it, because I'm sure I would have found a way. What I'm saying is it wouldn't have been fair to my son. It would have been selfish of me to have kept him. But what I'm not saying is that single parents, or unwed parents are selfish, in any way shape or form. In fact, I have a great respect for them.

Anyways, that's what was on my mind. Take or leave it.