Saturday, July 30, 2011

5QF, erm Saturday…

Welcome to 5QF, new and old! I hope you will enjoy yourself...I have found the 5QF is my "get out of jail free" card for blogging. A post that is fun and easy to do!

Rules for 5QF: Copy and paste the following questions to your blog post, answer them, then watch for the linky post to appear on Friday morning!

Questions for Friday, July 29th: (Special thanks to @katieb38, @ByGollyMsHolly,@MarandaLamping, Sandy, and Pam for their question suggestions! Wanna be linked in a future Five Question Friday? Well, c'mon over to my community or watch for my Twitter shout out on Thursday mornings and offer up your best question suggestions! Remember to@5crookedhalos me using hashtag #5QF if you go the Twitter route!)

1. Vow renewal ceremonies-yay or nay?

YAY! I would love to do one on the beach in Hawaii before we leave, just me and him!

2. What sound/s annoy you the most?

Whining children, it’s quite the pet peeve…

3. If you had to pick, would you have only all boys, or only all girls for kids?

Oh gosh, I don’t know…I don’t think I’d want to choice. I would like one of each…BUT if I had to choice probably boys, because I remember what I was like a teenager, and it was NOT pretty…

4. Do you believe in alternative medicine?

Yes, I do. Sometimes conventional medicine just doesn’t cut it…and sometimes, you don’t need a pill or other form of medication to help with an issues.

5. Would you take a family member's children and raise them if they needed it?

I think that would fully depend on who the person was, who the child was, and what our situation was at the time. And if that answer doesn’t sit well with you, then I’m sorry. But I’m not going to agree to raise someone else’s child if I’m not in a situation that I can do it. It wouldn’t be fair to the child, the family member, or my family. That being said, if it were someone I was really close to, and the child liked us, and we were in a situation where we could take care of them, then YES, in a heartbeat.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Countdown fun

Got this from Red Hot :)

ten. Favorite Places to be. 
1. Anywhere with the husband
2. Sleeping
3. At home
4. With friends
5. Starbucks
6. Maui
7. The sofa
8. Computer chair
9. Neighbor's house
10. With loved ones

nine. Weird things about me
1. I don't like when my volume on the tv, radio, computer is an odd number, but I'm okay with it ending in a 5...
2. I love to plays Sims 3
3. I'm addicted to Facebook, and I'm pretty good at stalking
4. I can't wait to have children, but I'm in no rush
5. I have an addiction to nail polish and Scentsy scent bars
6. I try not to judge people - everyone has done things they're not proud of, and who am I to make a judgment about you, when I'm not perfect...
7. I love to dance, but I'm not good at it at all...
8. I will never eat another gummy bear in my life
9. My very best friend and I have never met in person, but we are closer than some of my family members...

eight. Things I am going to do this summer
1. Go to Maui
2. Stay in Waikiki
3. R&R
4. Work
5. Go to Vegas
6. Walk
7. Tan
8. Take hubby back to airport :(

seven. Things I am thinking of. 
1. My husband
2. Son
3. Babies
4. Family
5. Friends
6. Food (I'm hungry)
7. Sleep (didn't sleep well)

six. Things I am wearing. 
1. Old Navy Capris
2. Wal Mart Shirt
3. Silly Bandz (Hello Kitty, Tinkerbell)
4. Slippah's (flip flops)
5. Wedding ring
6. Birthstone ring

five. Things I am worried about
1. Hubby leaving
2. Money
3. Flying to Maui
4. Deployment
5. ???

four. Things on my floor
1. Clothes
2. Drinks
3. Shoes
4. Laundry Baskets

three. Things I want to do today
1. Play Sims
2. Cuddle
3. Sleep

two. Things I will reveal
1. We are not trying to get pregnant, but we're not preventing it.
2. I love having my husband home for R&R but a part of me can't wait for him to go back so we can get this deployment over with.

one. A Secret
Well, hmm, I was planning on coming home in August, but I just don't think I'm going to be able to afford it. So instead, for Labor day I might meet up with a friend in Vegas.

Monday, July 18, 2011

Show Us Your Life

Go here to link up…
July 15 - How did you share to your husband and families you were pregnant? (In my case, the baby daddy (or sperm donor as I like to call him), not husband)

So, I told the sperm donor first, over the phone…since he had a girlfriend, I didn’t want to text him, as that wouldn’t be cool if she got the text and not him. I didn’t want to rat him out, as it wasn’t my place. He was adamant that it wasn’t his, and that he couldn’t have gotten me pregnant, because a gay friend wanted him to be the sperm donor and they couldn’t use his sperm because of a low sperm count. Which doesn’t mean much, it was low, not zero. He pretty much wanted nothing to do with me, or the baby. And he didn’t want his girlfriend to find out. So we didn’t talk but a few times over the course of the pregnancy, and have only talked once or twice since his birth, and the last time I heard from him was almost 3 years ago. Which is fine by me.

I told my father before my mom, and it was while I was making pasta…I had no idea how to tell him, so I just blurted it out. His first words were “I already knew” and then he asked my plans for the baby and that I should think of adoption. He was super supportive of me, and helpful. His girlfriend at the time was also very supportive and wonderful.

Now, I told my mom after I had already decided that adoption was the way I was going to go. And she wasn’t very thrilled with the idea. She wanted to raise him, and as much as I would have loved to have him in my life. I just knew that it wasn’t what was best for him. I think she sees now that what I did was for the best, and that things worked out how they were suppose to.

I told my dad’s parents over the phone, after I decided on adoption, and because I knew they wouldn’t judge me or be upset with me. I mean, I’m sure they were upset by it, but I knew they wouldn’t hold it against me. I did not tell my mom’s parents, and up to this point, I don’t think they know. I had just dropped out of college, and I felt like I had let them down so much, and I had done that before, so I couldn’t bare upsetting them and disappointing them again. It was and still is very hard to keep that from them. But I think it was for the best.

I emailed the couple I had in mind for the adoption, and asked them to pray about adopting him. They ended up feeling that he wasn’t their child, and actually mentioned the family that ended up adopting him. Not only did they mention them, but another friend brought it up. AND on top of that, I had been thinking about them as well. They had just gone through some things, and were unable to have any more children, and I had known they were wanting to adopt, their plan was 2 biological children and then adopting. It just so happens God has different plans for them. We emailed back and forth while I was pregnant, and they ended up asking for my number, and calling and asking me if they could pray about it. So they did, and ended up adopting him. It’s amazing how God works things out.

I tried to keep the pregnancy quiet on Facebook. But people found out, and that’s fine. I ended up telling some people, other people decided to take it upon themselves to tell others. And that to me, is just hurtful. Why would you tell someone else’s story, that wasn’t yours to tell. I never confronted them. I never really brought that up before. Anyways, I’m not quite sure why I didn’t want it all over Facebook, mostly because I was embarrassed. I was ashamed that as an educated, 23 year old, I got myself in this situation. I know I shouldn’t have been ashamed or embarrassed. But I think everyone goes through that.

Eventually, I put it out there that I had a child, and placed him for adoption. I can’t remember how I did it. But it just came out. And I’m glad it did. I hope it helps someone else in my situation to make the decision to place their child, if that’s what’s best for the child. I love hooking up with people who have gone through what I’ve gone through, and I’m just hoping to help 1 person.

Monday, July 11, 2011

My Birthday

It wasn't my 1st birthday without the hubby, he missed the first birthday I had while dating. It was in 09, I turned 24, and he left for Oklahoma a few short days before. And now, here we are 2 years later, except he's in Afghanistan.

It was a weird day yesterday. I had an off day, kept messing things up, forgetting things, and just not having things go my way.

Until dinner and even there I almost left my debit card at the restaurant. 15 of us got together for dinner at the Outback Steakhouse. It was AMAZING!!! New friends were there and old friends, and a few of my favorite children. Plus a huge chocolate cake from Costco. Which I think there should be some law against buying your own bday cake LOL

I got my nails done and then went to the mall and got my hair done, and my free bday drink from Starbucks!

When I got home from dinner I got on fb and the hubby was on and I got to Skype with him. It made my bday so much better. I hadn't heard from him all day and I was getting a little annoyed and anxious.

I got some really awesome gifts, which I was not expecting and that made my day! I will post some pictures when I get them.

I also met my great grand sis mom, in my sorority we had sis moms, not big sis/lil sis, its hard to explain. But Merce was my sis mom, MiMi was her's, and then Kathy was her's. And I met Kathy last night. She just moved to Hawaii. She had graduated the semester before I pledged, so we missed one another.

I am so blessed to have so many wonderful friends!

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