Thursday, April 1, 2010

Hypocritical - Are you guilty?

So I'm sitting in the Dave Ramsey class waiting for it to start and my hubs to get here and I figured now is a good time to blog about what's been on my mind since yesterday.

Hypocrites....I think we've all been guilty of it before. Whether you realized it or not. Nobody's perfect, right? I've had my share of hypocritical moments. Hello I had a kid outta wedlock. And I drank before I was 21 yet I expect my sister to wait to drink til she's old enough and to have sex after she's married. But I think there is a difference in telling someone not to do something you yourself have done in the past and what you do now. I think hypocrisy is more along the lines of telling someone not to curse and then going and cursing. Or telling someone not to smoke crack and then going and scoring.

What got me upset is telling people that it's not okay to do something nice for yourself and then go and do exactly that. I was starting to feel very guilty about wanting to do something for myself. I did stop...but mainly because money got tight. But I also started feeling guilty. And now I feel like a putz for ever feeling guilty.

Now I could be totally misunderstanding what they were trying to say. It was said while talking about putting your family first. Making sure the kids and husband are cared for. And putting their needs first. Which I agree with. But I think that every once in a while you need to take a break. Get away from it all. Do something nice for yourself. (I can be very bad with words and how I explain things so please just be patient lol) I think that in order to do your best for your family you have to be your best. And sometimes taking time for you is a way you do that. It won't matter to your husband if you cooked dinner if you are in a bad mood or unhappy. And most of the time he'll probably not even notice the effort you made (because most men aren't observant.) but you could have done a better job on dinner if you took a time out and set aside a time for yourself.

I'm not saying do it every day or weekly. Maybe monthly. Or whenever you start to feel burnt out. And be reasonable with what you decide to do.

I'm also not saying you shouldn't pray, worship, study, read your bible daily. Because you should do that daily. Its something I need to work on. I try so hard to do so daily but I just can't seem to do it. I just thought I'd put that out there so people won't think I'm trying to be a hypocrite. Because I really am not. As a matter of fact I have a few prayer requests I need to lift up that I will do when I'm done here.

So I guess my post took a turn. But I think I may have misunderstood what was said as hypocrisy when it really wasn't. But then again who knows!


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2 comments:

AKD said...

I agree - I think hypocrisy is telling someone to not drink, then going out and doing it. We can't change our pasts, but we can change our present to be a good example. It sounds like you're a great one!

Amanda Negley said...

wow, thanks! that means a lot!